PURPOSE:
The purpose of the survey is to learn more about what causes our relationships to break up. To examine this issue we will be asking you a few questions about yourself, and then some that address various issues regarding breaking up. Of necessity, some of the questions are quite personal. Your responses to these questions will be completely anonymous since we do not ask for your name or other personally identifying information at any point. However, should you feel uncomfortable with any question, please feel free not to respond, and go on to the next question.
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If you have any questions or comments about this survey contact
Dr. Deborah Davis
or
Michael Vernon
at The University of Nevada, Reno.
I. ABOUT YOU:
SEX:
Male
Female
AGE:
HAVE YOU EVER SENT A RESPONSE TO THIS SURVEY BEFORE?
Yes
No
ARE YOU AT YOUR COMPUTER ALONE?
Yes
No
RACE:
Caucasian
African American
Hispanic
American Indian
Asian
Other
SEXUAL ORIENTATION:
Heterosexual
Homosexual
Bisexual
Transsexual
YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS:
I am dating one person
I am dating multiple people
I am single and not dating
I am married
I am married but seeing others
BEFORE WE ASK YOU ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS WE WOULD LIKE TO ASK A FEW QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR GENERAL FEELINGS THAT MAY AFFECT YOUR ATTITUDES OR BEHAVIOR. PLEASE INDICATE THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU AGREE WITH EACH STATEMENT.
I am not a worrier
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I often feel inferior to others
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
When I am under a great deal of stress, sometimes I feel like I am going to pieces
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I rarely feel lonely or blue
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I often feel tense and jittery
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
Sometimes I feel completely worthless
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I rarely feel fearful or anxious
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I often get angry at the way people treat me
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
Too often, when things go wrong, I get discouraged and feel like giving up
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I am seldom sad or depressed
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
I often feel helpless and want someone else to solve my problems
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
At times I have been so ashamed I just wanted to hide
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
strongly disagree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . strongly agree
YOUR EXPERIENCES IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS:
THE FOLLOWING STATEMENTS CONCERN HOW YOU TYPICALLY FEEL IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS (NOT JUST WHAT YOU FEEL NOW OR IN YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP). PLEASE INDICATE THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU AGREE WITH EACH STATEMENT
I AM NERVOUS WHEN PARTNERS GET TOO CLOSE TO ME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I FEEL COMFORTABLE DEPENDING ON ROMANTIC PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I PREFER NOT TO BE TOO CLOSE TO ROMANTIC PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I FEEL COMFORTABLE SHARING MY PRIVATE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS WITH MY PARTNER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I PREFER NOT TO SHOW A PARTNER HOW I FEEL DEEP DOWN
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I AM VERY COMFORTABLE BEING CLOSE TO ROMANTIC PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
JUST WHEN MY PARTNERS START TO GET CLOSE TO ME I FIND MYSELF PULLING AWAY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I TRY TO AVOID GETTING TOO CLOSE TO MY PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO ALLOW MYSELF TO DEPEND ON ROMANTIC PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I USUALLY DISCUSS MY PROBLEMS AND CONCERNS WITH MY PARTNERS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I DON'T MIND ASKING ROMANTIC PARTNERS FOR COMFORT, ADVICE, OR HELP
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
IT HELPS TO TURN TO MY ROMANTIC PARTNERS IN TIMES OF NEED
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I WORRY ABOUT BEING ABANDONED
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I WORRY A LOT ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIPS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I WORRY THAT ROMANTIC PARTNERS WON'T CARE ABOUT ME
AS MUCH AS I CARE ABOUT THEM
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I WORRY A FAIR AMOUNT ABOUT LOSING MY PARTNER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I OFTEN WANT TO MERGE COMPLETELY WITH ROMANTIC PARTNERS, AND THIS SOMETIMES SCARES THEM AWAY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I WORRY ABOUT BEING ALONE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
WHEN I'M NOT INVOLVED IN A RELATIONSHIP,
I FEEL SOMEWHAT ANXIOUS AND INSECURE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I NEED A LOT OF REASSURANCE THAT I AM LOVED BY MY PARTNER.
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I FIND THAT MY PARTNERS DON'T WANT TO GET AS CLOSE AS I WOULD LIKE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
IF I CAN'T GET MY PARTNER TO SHOW INTEREST IN ME, I GET UPSET OR ANGRY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I FORCE MY PARTNERS TO SHOW MORE FEELING, MORE COMMITMENT
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
I OFTEN WISH THAT MY PARTNER'S FEELINGS FOR ME WERE AS STRONG AS MY FEELINGS FOR HIM/HER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Strongly Disagree.................................................Strongly Agree
II. A BRIEF RELATIONSHIP HISTORY
1. How many serious romantic relationships have you had?
(Include those that either (a) you felt very strongly about the other person, and/or (b) that lasted for a long time.)
2. Have you ever had any relationship that involved sexual intercourse?
Yes
No
3. How long were you with this person (your last partner)?
Years:
Months:
4. How long has it been since you broke up?
Years:
Months:
5. Did your relationship involve sexual intercourse?
Yes
No
6. Who has typically initiated the breakup of your past relationships?
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
always has been me..........................................................always my partner
(half and half)
7. On the average, how bad do you feel when a romantic relationship breaks up?
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all bad..........................................................extremely bad
III. CAUSES OF YOUR LAST BREAKUP
TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS IN THE FOLLOWING SECTION, THINK OF THE BREAKUP OF YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP THAT HAD LASTED FOR SOME TIME BEFORE THE BREAKUP OR IN WHICH YOU WERE SERIOUSLY EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED. DO NOT REFER TO A RELATIONSHIP THAT BROKE UP AFTER A FEW DATES.
HOW EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED WERE YOU WITH THIS PERSON?
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all involved.................................................extremely involved
WHO WANTED THIS PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP TO BREAK UP?
I wanted to break up more than my partner
We both wanted to break up equally
My partner wanted to break up more than I did
WHO ACTUALLY FIRST SUGGESTED BREAKING UP?
I did
My partner did
Both of us seemed to suggest it at the same time
PLEASE INDICATE HOW TRUTHFUL YOU THOUGHT YOUR PREVIOUS PARTNER WAS ABOUT THE REASON(S) HE OR SHE GAVE TO YOU ABOUT WHY THEY WANTED TO BREAK UP (
ANSWER ONLY IF YOUR PARTNER OR BOTH YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WANTED TO BREAKUP
):
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all truthful .......................................................... very truthful
PLEASE INDICATE HOW TRUTHFUL YOU WERE TO YOUR PARTER ABOUT WHY YOU WANTED TO BREAK UP (
ANSWER ONLY IF YOU OR BOTH YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WANTED TO BREAKUP
):
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all truthful .......................................................... very truthful
PLEASE INDICATE THE EXTENT TO WHICH YOU TRIED TO SEARCH FOR THE TRUE MEANING OF WHY THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED:
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
none at all .......................................................... very much
IF YOU HAD TO ASSIGN "FAULT" FOR CAUSING THE BREAKUP, HOW MUCH WOULD YOU ASSIGN TO: (Be sure your numbers total 100%)
Yourself:
%
Your Partner:
%
(100% TOTAL)
IF YOU INITIATED THE BREAK UP WITH YOUR PARTNER, PLEASE FILL OUT THE SECTION (IIIA) IMMEDIATELY BELOW:
IF YOUR PARTNER INITIATED THE BREAK UP PLEASE
CLICK HERE TO SKIP TO SECTION IIIB BELOW
IF BOTH OF YOU WANTED TO BREAK UP, PLEASE FILL OUT BOTH SECTION IIIA AND IIIB
IIIA: REASONS YOU WANTED TO BREAK UP
(Complete this section only
if you wanted to break up.
If you didn't,
go to section IIIB
)
WHAT WERE THE MAIN THREE REASONS YOU WANTED TO BREAK UP?
(1)
(2)
(3)
PLEASE RATE THE EXTENT TO WHICH EACH OF THE FOLLOWING CAUSED YOU TO WANT TO BREAK UP:
PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS:
OVERALL, MY PARTNER WAS NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S BODY WASN’T ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S FACE WASN’T ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER HAD UNATTRACTIVE TEETH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WASN’T SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WASN’T PHYSICALLY FIT ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S WEIGHT WAS UNATTRACTIVE TO ME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WASN’T SUFFICIENTLY YOUTHFUL
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WASN’T SUFFICIENTLY ENERGETIC
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO UNHEALTHY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S PERSONAL HYGENE WAS A PROBLEM
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
CHARACTER/PERSONALITY ISSUES:
OVERALL, MY PARTNER’S PERSONALITY WAS UNATTRACTIVE TO ME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
OVERALL, MY PARTNER DID NOT HAVE THE CHARACTER I WANTED
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
(S)HE HAD POOR MENTAL HEALTH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT HONEST ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO UNPREDICTABLE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO UNRELIABLE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT INTELLIGENT ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT KIND ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS DEPRESSED TOO MUCH OF THE TIME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT A HAPPY PERSON
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT SENSITIVE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO SENSITIVE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO EASY TO OFFEND
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO MOODY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I FELT LIKE I HAD TO “WALK ON EGGS” AROUND MY PARTNER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I NEVER KNEW WHAT TO EXPECT FROM MY PARTNER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT CONSIDERATE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARNTER WAS NOT ENOUGH FUN TO BE WITH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT INTERESTING TO TALK TO
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER HAD UNACCEPTABLE MORALS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY INSECURE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DID NOT HAVE A GOOD ENOUGH SENSE OF HUMOR
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S SOCIAL SKILLS WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER TOO OFTEN EMBARRASSED ME AROUND OTHER PEOPLE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I SOMETIMES FELT ASHAMED TO BE WITH (HIM)HER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT SOMEONE I COULD BE PROUD TO BE WITH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS TOO JEALOUS WHEN THERE WAS NO REASON FOR IT
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS SUSPICIOUS OF ME AND MY MOTIVES FOR NO GOOD REASON
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE:
MY PARTNER WAS NOT WARM ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT ROMANTIC ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT LOVING ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT CARING ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNR DIDN’T SEEM TO CARE WHETHER I WAS HAPPY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT AFFECTIONATE ENOUGH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DID NOT LOVE ME COMPLETELY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I WANTED SOMEONE WHO WOULD LOVE ME MORE THAN MY PARTNER DID
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WAS NOT SOMEONE I COULD LOVE COMPLETELY
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DID NOT TRULY UNDERSTAND WHO I AM
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DID NOT ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DIDN’T THINK I WAS PERFECT ENOUGH TO SUIT ME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER TRIED TO CHANGE ME TOO MUCH
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DID NOT GIVE ME ENOUGH REASSURANCE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER MADE ME FEEL INSECURE AS A PERSON
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER MADE ME FEEL INSECURE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER CRITICIZED ME TOO OFTEN
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER COULD NOT ACCEPT MY WEAKNESSES
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I COULD NOT ACCEPT MY PARTNER’S WEAKNESSES
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I FELT I COULD NOT BE THE PERSON MY PARTNER WANTED ME TO BE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I DIDN’T LOVE MY PARTNER ANY MORE
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I GOT BORED WITH MY PARTNER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I GOT TIRED OF MY PARTNER’S INSECURITIES
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER TURNED OUT TO BE MUCH DIFFERENT THAN I THOUGHT (S)HE WAS IN THE BEGINNING
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I FOUND ANOTHER PERSON I LIKED BETTER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I JUST LIKED BEING ALONE BETTER
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
THE RELATIONSHIP WAS CAUSING TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL STRESS FOR ME
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I FELT LIKE I COULDN’T “BE MYSELF” IN THE RELATIONSHIP
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
THE RELATIONSHIP MADE ME FEEL WORSE ABOUT MYSELF
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I LOVED MY PARTNER TOO MUCH, AND WANTED TO GET AWAY FROM THE INTENSE EMOTION
1
2
3
4
5
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I WANTED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE I FELT MORE IN CONTROL OF MY OWN EMOTIONS
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I FELT MY OWN EMOTIONS WERE GETTING OUT OF CONTROL AND WANTED TO STOP IT BEFORE THEY BECAME TOO INTENSE
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CAREGIVING:
MY PARTNER WAS NOT SENSITIVE ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO SELF-CENTERED
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO SELFISH
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT CONSIDERATE OF ME
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MY PARTNER DIDN'T UNDERSTAND MY NEEDS
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT RESPONSIVE TO MY NEEDS
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT THERE FOR ME WHEN I NEEDED SUPPORT
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MY PARTNER SEEMED TO ALWAYS DO WHAT (S)HE THOUGHT I NEEDED, RATHER THAN WHAT I ACTUALLY NEEDED FROM HIM(HER)
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MY PARTNER WAS UNABLE TO SATISFY MY NEEDS
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I FELT I COULD NOT SATISFY MY PARTNER’S NEEDS
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MY PARTNER WAS MEAN TO ME
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MY PARTNER WAS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE
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MY PARTNER WAS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE
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MY PARTNER HURT ME SO MUCH THAT I HAD TO LEAVE
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I WAS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE TO MY PARTNER
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I WAS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE TO MY PARTNER
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I FELT I HAD TO LEAVE TO AVOID HURTING HIM(HER) ANY MORE
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO DIFFICULT FOR ANYONE TO SATISFY
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INTIMACY:
MY PARTNER WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY DISTANT
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY EXPRESSIVE
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I COULDN’T STAND THE EMOTIONAL DEMANDS FROM MY PARTNER
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY DEMANDING
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I STARTED TO FEEL SMOTHERED
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I FELT LIKE I NEEDED MORE PRIVACY
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I FELT LIKE I COULDN’T GET CLOSE ENOUGH TO MY PARTNER
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MY PARTNER TRIED TO GET TOO CLOSE
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT WILLING TO BE INTIMATE ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WANTED TOO MUCH INTIMACY
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T GIVE ME ENOUGH ATTENTION
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MY PARTNER PAID TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO ME
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MY PARTNER WANTED TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO “CLINGY”
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I FELT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS TAKING TOO MUCH TIME
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I FELT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS INTERFERING WITH OTHER IMPORTANT ACTIVITIES
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MY PARTNER WOULDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME TOGETHER
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MY PARTNER WANTED TO DO TOO MANY THINGS TOGETHER
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T WANT TO DO ENOUGH THINGS TOGETHER
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH OF HIS(HER) OWN SEPARATE INTERESTS
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MY PARTNER HAD TOO MANY SEPARATE INTERESTS
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MY PARTNER WOULDN’T LET ME HAVE ANY SPACE
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MY PARTNER GAVE ME TOO MUCH SPACE
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO CONTROLLING
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T LET ME HAVE ENOUGH FREEDOM
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED WHEN I SPENT TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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MY PARTNER SPENT TOO MUCH TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED WHEN I SPENT TIME ON MY OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbies, reading, TV, etc.)
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED THAT I DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME ON MY OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbies, reading, TV, etc.)
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MY PARTNER SPENT TOO MUCH TIME ON HIS(HER) OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbied, reading, TV, etc.)
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME ON HIS(HER) OWN INTERESTS
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED WHEN I SPENT TIME WITH OTHER FRIENDS
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED THAT I DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH OTHER FRIENDS
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MY PARTNER WOULD NOT LET ME DEPEND ON HIM(HER)
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MY PARTNER WANTED ME TO DEPEND ON HIM(HER) MORE THAN I WAS COMFORTABLE WITH
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MY PARTNER DEPENDED ON ME TOO MUCH
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MY PARTNER WOULDN’T DEPEND ON ME ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO INDEPENDENT
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT INDEPENDENT ENOUGH
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I FELT LIKE I NEEDED MORE INDEPENDENCE
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I WANTED A CLOSER RELATIONSHIP THAN MY PARTNER WAS WILLING TO HAVE
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COMMITTMENT:
I WAS CONVINCED MY PARTNER WOULD BREAK UP WITH ME SOONER OR LATER
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I WANTED TO BE SURE TO BREAK UP WITH HIM(HER) BEFORE (S)HE BROKE UP WITH ME
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I WANTED TO BE FREE TO DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON
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I DIDN’T WANT TO MAKE AS MUCH OF A COMMITMENT AS MY PARTNER WANTED
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MY PARTNER WOULD NOT MAKE AS MUCH OF A COMMITMENT AS I WANTED
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I WANTED TO GET MARRIED AND (S)HE DIDN’T
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(S)HE WANTED TO GET MARRIED AND I DIDN’T
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CONFLICT:
THERE WAS TOO MUCH CONFLICT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP
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I DIDN’T LIKE THE WAY MY PARTNER HANDLED DISAGREEMENTS
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MY PARTNER PICKED FIGHTS TOO OFTEN
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MY PARTNER COMPLAINED ABOUT EVERYTHING TOO MUCH
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WE FOUGHT TOO OFTEN
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OUR FIGHTS WERE TOO HOSTILE
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MY PARTNER WAS UNFAIR IN FIGHTS
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I FELT THAT MY PARTNER NEVER TRULY LISTENED TO ME OR UNDERSTOOD WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T ACKNOLWEDGE THE VALIDITY OF ANY OF MY POINTS
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MY PARTNER OFTEN BECAME IRRATIONAL DURING ARGUMENTS
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I PREFER TO HANDLE CONFLICTS CALMLY AND RATIONALLY, BUT THIS WAS IMPOSSIBLE WITH MY PARTNER
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MY PARTNER GOT PHYSICALLY VIOLENT DURING ARGUMENTS
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MY PARTNER SCREAMED AND YELLED TOO MUCH
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WE NEVER SEEMED TO BE ABLE TO SOLVE ANY OF OUR PROBLEMS
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MY PARTNER GOT SO ANGRY AND UPSET WHEN WE DISCUSSED PROBLEMS THAT I WAS RELUCTANT TO BRING ANYTHING UP
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MY PARTNER THOUGHT EVERYTHING COULD BE HANDLED LOGICALLY, AND WOULDN’T DEAL WITH THE EMOTIONAL ISSUES WE NEEDED TO HANDLE
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I BECAME SO ANGRY AND UPSET WITH MY PARTNER DURING DISAGREEMENTS THAT I COULDN’T DEAL WITH OUR PROBLEMS EFFECTIVELY
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I FOUND THE WAY MY PARTNER AND I HANDLED DISAGREEMENTS UNACCEPTABLE
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MY PARTNER FREQUENTLY HURT MY FEELINGS WHEN WE TRIED TO HANDLE PROBLEMS OR DISAGREEMENTS
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I FREQUENTLY HURT MY PARTNER’S FEELINGS WHEN HANDLING PROBLEMS OR DISAGREEMENTS
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SEXUAL ISSUES:
MY PARTNER WAS UNFAITHFUL TO ME
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I WAS UNFAITHFUL TO MY PARTNER
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WE WERE SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE
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MY PARTNER DID NOT MEET MY SEXUAL NEEDS
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT ENTHUSIASTIC ENOUGH ABOUT SEX
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT SEXUALLY SKILLFUL ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT SEXUALLY ADVENTUROUS ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WANTED TO HAVE SEX TOO OFTEN
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE SEX OFTEN ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT AFFECTIONATE ENOUGH DURING SEX
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MY PARTNER WANTED MORE FOREPLAY AND CUDDLING, BUT I JUST WANTED MORE STRAIGHT INTERCOURSE
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MY PARTNER WANTED SEX TO BE MORE KINKY THAN I DID
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT PASSIONATE ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT SENSUAL ENOUGH
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CAREER/FINANCES:
MY PARTNER WAS NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGH
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH CAREER POTENTIAL
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MY PARTNER’S OCCUPATION WAS UNATTRACTIVE
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MY PARTNER HAD TOO LITTLE INCOME
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MY PARTNER HAD TOO LITTLE PROPERTY OR OTHER POSSESSIONS
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO SELFISH WITH MONEY
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MY PARTNER EXPECTED ME TO PAY FOR TOO MANY THINGS
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MY PARTNER WAS GENERALLY A DRAIN ON MY FINANCIAL RESOURCES
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MY PARTNER WAS NO HELP IN SUPPORTING ME FINANCIALLY
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT A HARD WORKER
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OUR FINANCIAL RESOURCES WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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I FELT UNABLE TO SUPPORT MY PARTNER FINANCIALLY THE WAY I SHOULD
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I FELT THAT I WAS A FINANCIAL DRAIN ON MY PARTNER
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I FELT THAT I COULDN’T LIVE UP TO MY PARTNER’S EXPECTATIONS REGARDING MONEY
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MY PARTNER WAS IRRESPONSIBLE WITH MONEY
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I WAS AFRAID MY PARTNER WOULD BE THE TYPE TO RUN UP HUGE DEBTS, AND DIDN’T WANT TO BE PART OF IT
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WE FOUGHT A LOT ABOUT MONEY
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COMPATIBILITY:
WE HAD DISSIMILAR GOALS IN LIFE
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WE HAD DISSIMILAR DAILY LIVING HABITS
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WE HAD DISSIMILAR VALUES
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WE HAD TOO FEW INTERESTS IN COMMON
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WE HAD DIFFERENT RELIGIONS THAT CAUSED PROBLEMS
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WE HAD DISSIMILAR PHILOSOPHIES OF LIFE
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THERE WAS TOO MUCH DIFFERENCE IN OUR INTELLIGENCE
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THERE WAS TOO MUCH DIFFERENCE IN OUR EDUCATION
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MY PARTNER WANTED THINGS TO BE MUCH NEATER AND CLEANER THAN I COULD HANDLE
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MY PARTNER WAS TOO MESSY FOR ME TO HANDLE
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
FAMILY:
MY PARTNER WAS TOO FAMILY ORIENTED
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MY PARTNER WAS NOT FAMILY ORIENTED ENOUGH
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WANTED TO HAVE CHILDREN AND I DIDN’T
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I WANTED TO HAVE CHILDREN AND MY PARTNER DIDN’T
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T LIKE MY FRIENDS
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I DIDN’T LIKE MY PARTNER'S FRIENDS
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T LIKE MY FAMILY
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I DIDN’T LIKE MY PARTNER'S FAMILY
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER DIDN’T LIKE MY CHILDREN
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
I DIDN’T LIKE MY PARTNER'S CHILDREN
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY FAMILY DISAPPROVED OF MY PARTNER
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER’S FAMILY DISAPPROVED OF ME
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WANTED TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME WITH HIS(HER) FAMILY
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not at all a reason ............................................... very much a reason
MY PARTNER WOULDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH MY FAMILY
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I FELT MY PARTNER WAS NOT GOOD FOR MY CHILDREN
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I DID NOT WANT TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH MY PARTNER’S CHILDREN
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IIIB: REASONS YOUR PARTNER WANTED TO BREAK UP
(Complete this section only if your partner of both of you wanted to break up.)
WHAT WERE THE MAIN THREE REASONS YOUR PARTNER WANTED TO BREAK UP? (Base your answer on what your partner told you)
(1)
(2)
(3)
PLEASE RATE THE EXTENT TO WHICH EACH OF THE FOLLOWING CAUSED YOUR PARTNER TO WANT TO BREAK UP.
NOTE: BE SURE TO ANSWER ONLY WITH REGARD TO WHAT YOUR PARTNER EXPLICITLY TOLD YOU (S)HE DIDN’T LIKE ABOUT YOU, OR ABOUT WHY (S)HE WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH YOU. DO NOT ANSWER BASED ON YOUR OWN GUESSES, INFERENCES OR ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S FEELINGS AND REASONS FOR BREAKING UP.
PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY BODY WASN’T ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY FACE WASN’T ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD UNATTRACTIVE TEETH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WASN’T SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WASN’T PHYSICALLY FIT ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY WEIGHT WAS UNATTRACTIVE TO HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WASN’T SUFFICIENTLY YOUTHFUL
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WASN’T SUFFICIENTLY ENERGETIC
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO UNHEALTHY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY PERSONAL HYGENE WAS A PROBLEM
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
CHARACTER/PERSONALITY ISSUES:
OVERALL, MY PARTNER SAID MY PERSONALITY WAS UNATTRACTIVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
OVERALL, MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT HAVE THE CHARACTER (S)HE WANTED
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD POOR MENTAL HEALTH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT HONEST ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO UNPREDICTABLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO UNRELIABLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT INTELLIGENT ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT KIND ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS DEPRESSED TOO MUCH OF THE TIME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT A HAPPY PERSON
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SENSITIVE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO SENSITIVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EASY TO OFFEND
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO MOODY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT LIKE (S)HE HAD TO “WALK ON EGGS” AROUND ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE NEVER KNEW WHAT TO EXPECT FROM ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT CONSIDERATE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARNTER SAID I WAS NOT ENOUGH FUN TO BE WITH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT INTERESTING TO TALK TO
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD UNACCEPTABLE MORALS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY INSECURE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT HAVE A GOOD ENOUGH SENSE OF HUMOR
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY SOCIAL SKILLS WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I TOO OFTEN EMBARRASSED HIM(HER) AROUND OTHER PEOPLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE SOMETIMES FELT ASHAMED TO BE WITH ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SOMEONE I COULD BE PROUD TO BE WITH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO JEALOUS WHEN THERE WAS NO REASON FOR IT
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS SUSPICIOUS OF HIM(HER) AND HIS(HER) MOTIVES FOR NO GOOD REASON
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT WARM ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT ROMANTIC ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT LOVING ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT CARING ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T SEEM TO CARE WHETHER (S)HE WAS HAPPY
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT AFFECTIONATE ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT LOVE HIM(HER) COMPLETELY
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED SOMEONE WHO WOULD LOVE HIM(HER) MORE THAN I DID
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SOMEONE (S)HE COULD LOVE COMPLETELY
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT TRULY UNDERSTAND WHO (S)HE IS
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT ACCEPT HIM(HER) FOR WHO (S)HE IS
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T THINK (S)HE WAS PERFECT ENOUGH TO SUIT HIM(HER)
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I TRIED TO CHANGE HIM(HER) TOO MUCH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT GIVE HIM(HER) ENOUGH REASSURANCE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I MADE HIM(HER) FEEL INSECURE AS A PERSON
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I MADE HIM(HER) FEEL INSECURE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I CRITICIZED HIM(HER) TOO OFTEN
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COULD NOT ACCEPT HIS(HER) WEAKNESSES
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE COULD NOT ACCEPT MY WEAKNESSES
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER FELT (S)HE COULD NOT BE THE PERSON I WANTED HIM(HER) TO BE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T LOVE ME ANY MORE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE GOT BORED WITH ME
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE GOT TIRED OF MY INSECURITIES
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I TURNED OUT TO BE MUCH DIFFERENT THAN (S)HE THOUGHT I WAS IN THE BEGINNING
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER TOLD ME (S)HE FOUND ANOTHER PERSON (S)HE LIKED BETTER
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE JUST LIKED BEING ALONE BETTER
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID THE RELATIONSHIP WAS CAUSING TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL STRESS FOR HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT LIKE (S)HE COULDN’T “BE HIM(HER)SELF” IN THE RELATIONSHIP
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID THE RELATIONSHIP MADE HIM(HER) FEEL WORSE ABOUT (HIM)HERSELF
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE LOVED ME TOO MUCH, AND WANTED TO GET AWAY FROM THE INTENSE EMOTION
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE (S)HE FELT MORE IN CONTROL OF HIS(HER) OWN EMOTIONS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT HIS(HER) OWN EMOTIONS WERE GETTING OUT OF CONTROL AND WANTED TO STOP IT BEFORE THEY BECAME TOO INTENSE
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
CAREGIVING:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SENSITIVE ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO SELF-CENTERED
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO SELFISH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT CONSIDERATE OF HIM/HER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND HIS/HER NEEDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT RESPONSIVE TO HIS(HER) NEEDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT THERE FOR HIM(HER) WHEN I NEEDED SUPPORT
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I SEEMED TO ALWAYS DO WHAT I THOUGHT (S)HE NEEDED, RATHER THAN WHAT (S)HE ACTUALLY NEEDED FROM ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS UNABLE TO SATISFY HIS(HER) NEEDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT (S)HE COULD NOT SATISFY MY NEEDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS MEAN TO HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HURT HIM(HER) SO MUCH THAT (S)HE HAD TO LEAVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE LEFT BECAUSE (S)HE WAS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE TO ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE LEFT BECAUSE (S)HE WAS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE TO ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE HAD TO LEAVE TO AVOID HURTING ME ANY MORE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO DIFFICULT FOR ANYONE TO SATISFY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
INTIMACY:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY DISTANT
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY EXPRESSIVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE COULDN’T STAND MY EMOTIONAL DEMANDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO EMOTIONALLY DEMANDING
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE STARTED TO FEEL SMOTHERED
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT LIKE (S)HE NEEDED MORE PRIVACY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT LIKE (S)HE COULDN’T GET CLOSE ENOUGH TO ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I TRIED TO GET TOO CLOSE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT WILLING TO BE INTIMATE ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED TOO MUCH INTIMACY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T GIVE HIM(HER) ENOUGH ATTENTION
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I PAID TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO “CLINGY”
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS TAKING TOO MUCH TIME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS INTERFERING WITH OTHER IMPORTANT ACTIVITIES
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME TOGETHER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED TO DO TOO MANY THINGS TOGETHER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T WANT TO DO ENOUGH THINGS TOGETHER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH OF MY OWN SEPARATE INTERESTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD TOO MANY SEPARATE INTERESTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULDN’T LET HIM(HER) HAVE ANY SPACE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I GAVE HIM(HER) TOO MUCH SPACE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO CONTROLLING
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T LET HIM(HER) HAVE ENOUGH FREEDOM
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COMPLAINED TOO MUCH WHEN (S)HE SPENT TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I SPENT TOO MUCH TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME AT WORK/SCHOOL/STUDYING
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COMPLAINED TOO MUCH WHEN (S)HE SPENT TIME ON HIS(HER) OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbies, reading, TV, etc.)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COMPLAINED TOO MUCH THAT (S)HE DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME ON HIS(HER) OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbies, reading, TV, etc.)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I SPENT TOO MUCH TIME ON MY OWN INTERESTS (sports, hobbied, reading, TV, etc.)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME ON MY OWN INTERESTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COMPLAINED TOO MUCH WHEN (S)HE SPENT TIME WITH OTHER FRIENDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I COMPLAINED TOO MUCH THAT (S)HE DIDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH OTHER FRIENDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULD NOT LET HIM(HER) DEPEND ON ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED HIM(HER) TO DEPEND ON ME MORE THAN (S)HE WAS COMFORTABLE WITH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DEPENDED ON HIM(HER) TOO MUCH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULDN’T DEPEND ON HIM(HER) ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO INDEPENDENT
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT INDEPENDENT ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT LIKE (S)HE NEEDED MORE INDEPENDENCE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED A CLOSER RELATIONSHIP THAN I WAS WILLING TO HAVE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
COMMITTMENT:
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WAS CONVINCED I WOULD BREAK UP WITH HIM(HER) SOONER OR LATER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED TO BE SURE TO BREAK UP WITH ME BEFORE I BROKE UP WITH HER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED TO BE FREE TO DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T WANT TO MAKE AS MUCH OF A COMMITMENT AS I WANTED
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULD NOT MAKE AS MUCH OF A COMMITMENT AS (S)HE WANTED
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WANTED TO GET MARRIED AND I DIDN’T
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
I WANTED TO GET MARRIED AND MY PARTNER DIDN’T
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
CONFLICT:
MY PARTNER SAID THERE WAS TOO MUCH CONFLICT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T LIKE THE WAY I HANDLED DISAGREEMENTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I PICKED FIGHTS TOO OFTEN
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER COMPLAINED ABOUT EVERYTHING TOO MUCH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID WE FOUGHT TOO OFTEN
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR FIGHTS WERE TOO HOSTILE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS UNFAIR IN FIGHTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT THAT I NEVER TRULY LISTENED TO HIM(HER) OR UNDERSTOOD WHAT (S)HE WAS TRYING TO SAY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T ACKNOLWEDGE THE VALIDITY OF ANY OF HIS(HER) POINTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I OFTEN BECAME IRRATIONAL DURING ARGUMENTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE PREFERS TO HANDLE CONFLICTS CALMLY AND RATIONALLY, BUT THIS WAS IMPOSSIBLE WITH ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I GOT PHYSICALLY VIOLENT DURING ARGUMENTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I SCREAMED AND YELLED TOO MUCH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID WE NEVER SEEMED TO BE ABLE TO SOLVE ANY OF OUR PROBLEMS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I GOT SO ANGRY AND UPSET WHEN WE DISCUSSED PROBLEMS THAT (S)HE WAS RELUCTANT TO BRING ANYTHING UP
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I THOUGHT EVERYTHING COULD BE HANDLED LOGICALLY, AND I WOULDN’T DEAL WITH THE EMOTIONAL ISSUES WE NEEDED TO HANDLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I BECAME SO ANGRY AND UPSET WITH MY PARTNER DURING DISAGREEMENTS THAT I COULDN’T DEAL WITH OUR PROBLEMS EFFECTIVELY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER FOUND THE WAY MY PARTNER AND I HANDLED DISAGREEMENTS UNACCEPTABLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I FREQUENTLY HURT HIS(HER) FEELINGS WHEN WE TRIED TO HANDLE PROBLEMS OR DISAGREEMENTS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FREQUENTLY HURT MY FEELINGS WHEN HANDLING PROBLEMS OR DISAGREEMENTS
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
SEXUAL ISSUES:
I WAS UNFAITHFUL TO MY PARTNER
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER WAS UNFAITHFUL TO ME
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID WE WERE SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DID NOT MEET HIS(HER) SEXUAL NEEDS
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT ENTHUSIASTIC ENOUGH ABOUT SEX
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SEXUALLY SKILLFUL ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SEXUALLY ADVENTUROUS ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED TO HAVE SEX TOO OFTEN
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE SEX OFTEN ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT AFFECTIONATE ENOUGH DURING SEX
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED MORE FOREPLAY AND CUDDLING, BUT (S)HE JUST WANTED MORE STRAIGHT INTERCOURSE
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED SEX TO BE MORE KINKY THAN (S)HE DID
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT PASSIONATE ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT SENSUAL ENOUGH
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
CAREER/FINANCES:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH CAREER POTENTIAL
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY OCCUPATION WAS UNATTRACTIVE
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD TOO LITTLE INCOME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I HAD TOO LITTLE PROPERTY OR OTHER POSSESSIONS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO SELFISH WITH MONEY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I EXPECTED HIM(HER) TO PAY FOR TOO MANY THINGS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS GENERALLY A DRAIN ON HIS(HER) FINANCIAL RESOURCES
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NO HELP IN SUPPORTING HIM(HER) FINANCIALLY
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT A HARD WORKER
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR FINANCIAL RESOURCES WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT UNABLE TO SUPPORT ME FINANCIALLY THE WAY (S)HE SHOULD
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT THAT I WAS A FINANCIAL DRAIN ON HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE FELT THAT (S)HE COULDN’T LIVE UP TO MY EXPECTATIONS REGARDING MONEY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS IRRESPONSIBLE WITH MONEY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE WAS AFRAID I WOULD BE THE TYPE TO RUN UP HUGE DEBTS, AND DIDN’T WANT TO BE PART OF IT
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID WE FOUGHT TOO MUCH ABOUT MONEY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
COMPATIBILITY:
MY PARTNER SAID OUR GOALS IN LIFE WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR DAILY LIVING HABITS WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR VALUES WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID WE HAD TOO FEW INTERESTS IN COMMON
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR DIFFERENT RELIGIONS CAUSED PROBLEMS FOR HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID OUR PHILOSOPHIES OF LIFE WERE TOO DISSIMILAR
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MY PARTNER SAID THERE WAS TOO MUCH DIFFERENCE IN OUR INTELLIGENCE
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MY PARTNER SAID THERE WAS TOO MUCH DIFFERENCE IN OUR EDUCATION
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
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MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED THINGS TO BE MUCH NEATER AND CLEANER THAN (S)HE COULD HANDLE
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MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO MESSY FOR HIM(HER) TO HANDLE
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
FAMILY:
MY PARTNER SAID I WAS TOO FAMILY ORIENTED
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MY PARTNER SAID I WAS NOT FAMILY ORIENTED ENOUGH
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER DIDN’T LIKE THAT I WANTED TO HAVE CHILDREN AND (S)HE DIDN’T
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MY PARTNER DIDN’T LIKE THAT (S)HE WANTED TO HAVE CHILDREN AND I DIDN’T
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MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T LIKE HIS(HER) FRIENDS
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T LIKE MY HIS(HER) FAMILY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I DIDN’T LIKE HIS(HER) CHILDREN
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T LIKE MY FRIENDS
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T LIKE MY FAMILY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DIDN’T LIKE MY CHILDREN
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID HIS(HER) FAMILY DISAPPROVED OF ME
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID MY FAMILY DISAPPROVED OF HIM(HER)
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WANTED TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME WITH MY FAMILY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID I WOULDN’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH HIS(HER) FAMILY
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not at all a partner ............................................... major partner
complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER FELT I WAS NOT GOOD FOR HIS(HER) CHILDREN
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complaint / criticism of me complaint / criticism of me
MY PARTNER SAID (S)HE DID NOT WANT TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH MY CHILDREN
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